So have the tough conversations upfront, ensure there is clarity and a genuine meeting of minds. All too often in a new relationship you only focus on the nice bits rather than the differing interests. Agreeing commercial terms is purely academic if strategically both parties seek very different things. While the differences are likely to remain, understanding these up front should help to resolve these differences when they do arrive.
So onto the second objective, how do we navigate our way to better times? Well, it isn’t straightforward and there is no one-size fits-all approach but trying to park our own issues to one side for a second and taking the third person perspective is often helpful. This is, after all, the approach professional mediators (and marriage guidance counsellors) tend to take. But why does this work?
Well, for one, when we approach any situation where there is conflict or disagreement with someone, the natural human response is to fight and always focus on what we need to happen from our own perspective. And we get really annoyed if they can’t completely see, understand and bow down to our point of view. Right?